The Ultimate Guide To Avoiding The 6 Biggest Divorce Mistakes
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Navigating Valentine’s Day During Divorce: Reclaiming Self-Love

Valentine’s Day during divorce may seem impossible, but it can be an opportunity to focus on the most important person—YOU.

While traditionally Valentine’s Day is about relationships with others, we often forget the most critical relationship of all: the one we have with ourselves.

The Words You Speak to Yourself Matter

Have you ever stopped to think about how you speak to yourself? When life feels overwhelming or when you make a mistake, does your inner voice offer grace and encouragement, or does it sound more like this?

These aren’t just fleeting thoughts. Words carry energy. The way you speak to yourself directly impacts your emotions, actions, and ultimately, the life you create.

The Hidden Cost of Negative Self-Talk

Most of us wouldn’t dream of speaking to our best friend the way we speak to ourselves. Yet, those subtle whispers of unworthiness creep in, sabotaging confidence and keeping us stuck.

Here’s how negative self-talk affects your life:

A client recently spoke negatively about herself, saying she was joking. But when we dug deeper, she realized those “jokes” were reinforcing a belief that she wasn’t capable of change. Her words were keeping her from taking the steps she needed to feel confident and empowered.

Your thoughts create your feelings. Your feelings drive your actions. And your actions lead to your results-always.

The way you speak to yourself isn’t just background noise—it shapes your reality. And if you want different results, it starts with shifting the way you talk to yourself.

Valentine’s Day During Divorce: A Time to Prioritize Self-Love

What if, instead of waiting for someone else to love and validate you, you started speaking to yourself with the kindness and compassion you deserve?

Imagine this:

When you prioritize yourself, something powerful happens. You stop running on empty, and you begin to live from a place of abundance. You’re more present, more engaged, and able to give to the people you love—not from obligation, but from a full heart.

How to Shift Your Self-Talk and Embrace Self-Love

Transforming your inner dialogue isn’t an overnight process, but it’s one of the most loving gifts you can give yourself this Valentine’s Day. Here are three small steps you can take today:

  1. Notice the Words You Use: Pay attention to how you talk to yourself throughout the day. When you catch yourself being harsh, pause and ask, “Would I say this to someone I love?”
  2. Replace Criticism with Curiosity: Instead of saying, “I’m such a failure,” try asking, “What can I learn from this?” This shifts your focus from judgment to growth.
  3. Practice Affirmations That Feel True: Start small with phrases like, “I am doing my best,” or, “I am worthy of kindness.” Over time, these affirmations become a new habit of self-compassion.

Valentine’s Day During Divorce: It’s Time to Choose You

This Valentine’s Day, don’t just celebrate love, embody it, starting with yourself. Because when you change the way you speak to yourself, you change the way you show up for your life.

You deserve a love that feels kind, abundant, and unwavering. Let that love start with you.

Let’s Talk—Your Future Starts Here

If you’re ready to quiet the critical voice, speak to yourself with compassion, and create a life that feels lighter and more aligned, let’s chat. I help women just like you rebuild confidence, set boundaries, and take control of their future.

I want to hear from you. Comment below….how are you choosing to take care of yourself this Valentine’s Day? Let’s start the conversation.

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Sharri Freedman

Whether you are struggling to make the decision to divorce or it has been made for you, you don’t have to figure it all out on your own.

With my expert guidance and support you will learn how to make confident empowered decisions without regret and live a life of peace, happiness and connection, even with a difficult high conflict ex-spouse.

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Hi, I'm Sharri!

Attorney Turned Divorce & Relationship Coach

Whether you are struggling to make the decision to divorce or it has been made for you, you don’t have to figure it all out on your own.

With my expert guidance and support you will learn how to make confident empowered decisions without regret and live a life of peace, happiness and connection, even with a difficult high conflict ex-spouse.

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